I am totally with you on this impulse and almost everything ive done that mattered started in bubble form- a rapid and temporary growth followed by a burst or a long, slow, less exciting journey. I think the falling in love metaphor is a great one and reminds me of this
"Nothing is more practical than
finding God, than
falling in Love
in a quite absolute, final way.
What you are in love with,
what seizes your imagination, will affect everything.
It will decide
what will get you out of bed in the morning,
what you do with your evenings,
how you spend your weekends,
what you read, whom you know,
what breaks your heart,
and what amazes you with joy and gratitude.
Fall in Love, stay in love,
and it will decide everything."
Perhaps the trouble is the staying in love part, which is where some discernment is necessary, and a willingness to let some fleeting love go.
This is not really a comment on the post as such, I am simply COMPELLED to state (because it is my personal hobby-horse) that with full respect to C. S. Lewis, I think the distinction he tries to draw in that quote, between friendship and romance, is absolute nonsense. I have never had a close friendship that did not involve contemplating and delighting in the friend.
I find it *directionally* correct, but it doesn't mean you're not being real friends when you enjoy each other (or that married couples can't stand shoulder to shoulder for a project).
I think of Four Loves as a project of analysis by parts, looking at what is most distinctive about each kind of love, and acknowledging you can have (appropriate!) erotic love (of longing) for a friend and that all loves are elevated by agape etc.
All human relationships have a mix of loves in them.
"But still, the case for bubbles feels more at odds with some of the spirit of Other Feminisms, which can be focused on careful, slow work of stewarding what you have and preparing to sustain new needs you encounter. So where does taking a wild chance fit in to this?"
I think you're hitting the crux of the ancient view on gender. Men create. Women nurture, maintain, guide, and guard. There is a reason men traditionally propose to women - they're taking the chance. In the traditional sense of gender, bubbles are a masculine thing.
I’ll be honest: my first assumptions, in order, were that this would be about (1) soap bubbles, (2) immunological bubbles, (3) sparkling wine, and (4) ideological bubbles, before realizing it was about (5) rapid and temporary growth in economic demand.
I am totally with you on this impulse and almost everything ive done that mattered started in bubble form- a rapid and temporary growth followed by a burst or a long, slow, less exciting journey. I think the falling in love metaphor is a great one and reminds me of this
"Nothing is more practical than
finding God, than
falling in Love
in a quite absolute, final way.
What you are in love with,
what seizes your imagination, will affect everything.
It will decide
what will get you out of bed in the morning,
what you do with your evenings,
how you spend your weekends,
what you read, whom you know,
what breaks your heart,
and what amazes you with joy and gratitude.
Fall in Love, stay in love,
and it will decide everything."
Perhaps the trouble is the staying in love part, which is where some discernment is necessary, and a willingness to let some fleeting love go.
This is not really a comment on the post as such, I am simply COMPELLED to state (because it is my personal hobby-horse) that with full respect to C. S. Lewis, I think the distinction he tries to draw in that quote, between friendship and romance, is absolute nonsense. I have never had a close friendship that did not involve contemplating and delighting in the friend.
I find it *directionally* correct, but it doesn't mean you're not being real friends when you enjoy each other (or that married couples can't stand shoulder to shoulder for a project).
I think of Four Loves as a project of analysis by parts, looking at what is most distinctive about each kind of love, and acknowledging you can have (appropriate!) erotic love (of longing) for a friend and that all loves are elevated by agape etc.
All human relationships have a mix of loves in them.
"But still, the case for bubbles feels more at odds with some of the spirit of Other Feminisms, which can be focused on careful, slow work of stewarding what you have and preparing to sustain new needs you encounter. So where does taking a wild chance fit in to this?"
I think you're hitting the crux of the ancient view on gender. Men create. Women nurture, maintain, guide, and guard. There is a reason men traditionally propose to women - they're taking the chance. In the traditional sense of gender, bubbles are a masculine thing.
I’ll be honest: my first assumptions, in order, were that this would be about (1) soap bubbles, (2) immunological bubbles, (3) sparkling wine, and (4) ideological bubbles, before realizing it was about (5) rapid and temporary growth in economic demand.
I guess I gotta rank them:
1. 2
2. 1
3. 5
4. 4
5. 3
(I really don't like sparking wine)
More for me!