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Courtney's avatar

I feel this constant tension between what *I* prefer/what is good for me specifically, and what is good for women/families in general. I understand the general need and desire for better childcare options, but years ago, there was talk about mandatory pre-school as the best option for childcare. As a homeschooling, stay at home mom, that sounds absolutely terrible! I can do a better job raising my kids than the state or a teacher who is also caring for 30 other children. But a mom who is itching to get back to work, or a single mom? It could be a very different story.

I just want to be left alone by the state. I don't really want to be seen...but I'm not comfortable saying that's what's best for all of even most women. Someone else left a comment about the abuse women can endure when they're less legible, yet I find myself thriving in a mutually respectful marriage where my husband holds all the "visible power" of a prestigious degree and job. I don't feel any less a person for my lack of formal higher education (though I will finish one day!) Or my zero economic contribution. As Tasha Tudor said, "you can read Shakespeare while stirring the jam". (In my case, it's currently Boethius.) Yet usually it's the conversation about efforts to make women like me more legible that makes me feel "less than."

I don't really know where I'm going in all of this, but just feel really grateful for the conversation and perspectives I see here!

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Katie's avatar

Oh! See how Wendell Berry makes the case for “the benefits of the insulation of illegibility” in this poem:

Manifesto: The Mad Farmer Liberation Front:

https://cals.arizona.edu/~steidl/Liberation.html

“Ask yourself: Will this satisfy/ A woman who is satisfied to bear a child?”

I wonder if the benefits of illegibility are really useful-- or even attainable-- for us as individuals? or if they only emerge in relationship, in interdependence; in community. Much of this, as you argue on this Substack, is in the purview of women. And in his poem, WB contends that the legible, civilized, official, economic world is simply *incapable* of seeing-- much less satisfying-- much less valuing-- the deeply human needs and joys that an idiṓtēs might name as essential and primary.

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