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Magdalen's avatar

Heh, I definitely have feelings about this in regards to autism. I and a lot of my family members are all probably around the boundary of a formal autism diagnosis. I have never been interested in formally pursuing a diagnosis since there isn't a concrete way it would make my life better (I don't want therapy or medication, I don't need accommodations at work, etc). The only time I wish I had a formal label to use is when people are put off by me seeming unemotional or blunt around a particular topic. I am used to having very frank conversations within my family about topics like death, incapacity, etc. (for example, my dad recently had heart surgery--he's fine now--and beforehand we had a very calm and unemotional conversation about family finances, how he wants money to be managed in the event of his death or incapacitation, how he was thinking about life insurance moving forward, and so on). I have learned from experience that other families are... not always like that.

My own experience as well as watching shows like Love on the Spectrum make me wonder whether collapsing Asperger's into the autism spectrum was really on balance a helpful thing. It seems useful to have had a shorthand for saying something like "struggles in social situations, may need some support to live independently" versus "may never learn to speak." It's hard for me to see the common lines of advocacy between these two levels of severity.

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Not medical, but as a (white) woman in engineering, I remember walking into the Minority Engineering Program "Finals study room", which had advertised free snacks each day of finals, with another female engineering student (who was Asian). The Minority Engineering Program at my college was, I believe, intended for (or at least in practice mainly used by) African American engineering students (who were mostly male, just because this is engineering). Everyone looked up when the two of us walked in, paused as they thought, "They're minorities in engineering how...? And then remembered, "Oh, right, they're girls." And went back to studying. Felt like we were sneaking in a bit from the edge of the intended population there, but we were college kids and wanted the free snacks.

After graduation, I got invited often to speak on Diversity in Engineering panels for undergraduate students. I married into a Hispanic last name (after growing up with a German one) and I think there were a number of surprised looks each time I showed up and some number of organizers or guests expected me to be Puerto Rican. Nope, just a woman in engineering. That's the only minority/diversity claim I have. 😅 Plus almost all my siblings are engineers, including my sister, so I didn't have that much in common with racial minority students with "first in my family to go to college and I picked engineering" backgrounds. (Though we could bond over engineering school being hard, no matter who you were!)

(For anyone considering engineering school, I'd recommend it, especially for women, even as hard as the classes are, my after graduation job was cool and interesting and way easier than school, and I could negotiate more easily for post-maternity benefits, since I was in a "minority" category they wanted to retain at their company.)

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