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Melanie's avatar

I grew up with a “harder is better” mentality, and I’m still unlearning it. Part of that process was the pendulum swing toward avoiding suffering bc I was actively working against that martyr mindset. Where I’d like to end up is in a place where I can focus on the correct “ends”; I’m moving forward in my vocation with an eye toward the good things I’m called to, which will likely involve some degree of suffering, but the suffering isn’t what I’m seeking. I hope I can accept it as peacefully as possible as part of the journey and not focus on it as a sign of God’s approval or a sign that I must be on the right track.

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Claire's avatar

For me, the most effective pushback against “the worse the better” mindset has been accepting that some suffering and hardship will happen. I have found that a bit of stoic pragmatism is a good check against running towards suffering as a measure of goodness but also a check against missing out on greater goods by trying to avoid difficulty (which often leads to its own suffering further down the road).

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