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Joyous Thirst's avatar

This post brings (good) tears to my eyes, simply for everyone taking a moment to really *see* the people and community around us.

As a “young” person with an invisible chronic illness (have lost count how many doctors have told me “you’re too young to have any risk factors”), and as someone living with my retirement-age parents (and yes, I’m on the first line of defense in dealing with Amazon issues for them and for older aunts), I’m right in this intersection.

Before these articles/comments, I hadn’t really noticed the tension between our interdependence and our expectations of eternal independence -- despite the ways that my parents help me in my disability (transportation, doctor appointment help, among other things) and the ways I help my parents (Amazon and making difficult phone calls, et al.). There’s often some sense of apology underlying our “burdenliness” on each other.

The amazing power of taking a moment to *see* the normalcy of it all (in the here and now as Elizabeth pointed out) is evident in the deep sense of gratitude welling up in me right now. Both for the ways I am helped and the ways I am allowed to help.

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Cecilia's avatar

Really loved Jordan's comment. I watched my parents do all of this for my grandparents, but didn't have the words for it.

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