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I can't say I enjoyed it but I am glad to have read "The Anguish of the Jews." it's a history of anti-semitism recommended by a professor of mine who studied in Jerusalem, who teaches Old Testament at a Catholic seminary. I'm Catholic and heard mostly from Catholics that historic anti semitism was largely an anti Catholic myth, and from secular sources that the Catholic Church is and has been seriously anti Semitic. This book traced the history in a way that was nuanced enough to be believable. Especially poignant was the beginning of the chapter in the Holocaust, when the author explains how hard it is to compose anything about it because, having traced anti Semitic violence for centuries, he's run out of superlatives, but finds that now he needs them more than ever.

I read "A Good Birth" by Anne Lyerly which I have read during both pregnancies and heartily recommend to any woman preparing to deliver a baby (or trying to make sense of past delivery experiences). Lyerly is an OB and a mom of four (five?). She and her team did a huge research project interviewing hundreds of women who had delivered babies in all kinds of situations (home, birthing center, hospital, emergency c section, planned c section, vaginal with and without epidural, things going as planned and not as planned, etc etc), plus numerous birth attendants: OBs, midwives, doulas, etc. She wanted to find out what makes for a "good" birth and why women make all different kinds of choices or come away with very different experiences of things that seemed very similar. She found out that it wasn't so much about the epidural (or whatever) but about things like... Presence, agency, connection, etc. To use the epidural example, some women found that they needed to "tussle" with the full pain of childbirth to feel fully present and other women found that pain relief helped them to be fully present, but pretty much universally women wanted to be "present" at the birth, and that was a big part of what made the birth good or bad. I found that it helped me think more clearly about my expectations and "plans" for birth and helped me articulate why I was drawn to some things more than others. It helped me shake off lingering guilt about not doing birth "right" and put me in a better place to make decisions that were best for me and for my family and be confident in those decisions. I delivered my baby this fall and l&d went nothing at all like anyone expected - while I was recovering in the hospital, the doctors were all like "yeah, I heard about you" - but thinking through my experience the way Lyerly presents things was really helpful in my own emotional processing.

I'm currently re-reading Night's Bright Darkness by Sally Read, about her conversion from atheism/feminism to Catholicism. She's a great writer and I'm really enjoying it, but I wish she'd go more in depth about her thinking.

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I INHALED The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry. It was one of those books that gives a voice to every argument that had been lurking in my mind but hadn't quite coalesced yet. I think one of the things that struck a chord with so many people is that it's a book about sexual ethics that is in line with most traditional or religious perspectives, but written by someone who is a secular agnostic. Reading books like The Rights of Women by Bachiochi or Rethinking Sex by Christine Emba, you definitely get the feeling that while they are ostensibly writing secular books, they are holding something back--that there's some belief lurking behind the surface that they won't quite surface, because they don't want to write a religious book. Perry's position allows her to hold nothing back.

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