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Monica's avatar

I quit shaving a while ago for basically political reasons (in particular, to get away from the idea that being or looking "feminine" means involves removing a part of my female body) but I've never thought about these "beauty" practices in terms of transhumanism before. That's an interesting framework, and I think it's especially interesting to look at how people's apparently individual choices still contribute to an ever-stiffer competition for everyone else, and what it costs to walk away from that competition.

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On “making [my] body fit more easily into the expectations of others”: I haven’t worn makeup or shaved for years. It’s a combination of not caring to spend time/money/energy on those things and, on the other hand, wanting to bring my authentic appearance to the world. Purely a personal choice and I think there’s lots of room for freedom on this.

Recently, during the obvious/conspicuous part of my second pregnancy, I found myself struggling a lot with people’s probable expectations of my appearance. It seems like past a certain point, a visibly pregnant belly is the *only* aspect of my body and even my self that some people seem to see or care or ask about. It seems like people almost have an expectation that a visibly pregnant woman ceases to be anyone or anything else. I found myself becoming hyperaware of my clothing/accessory/media/activity choices in an effort to visually convey that, though I was glad and grateful to be carrying a baby, I was much more than a mere gestator. Anyway. Idk if this precisely fits the question, and some of the self-consciousness is definitely just my own hangups, but I think there’s a possible element of wider societal expectations of women’s bodies in there too.

Another thing that comes to mind is purity culture dress expectations, but I’m not going to do a deep dive into that right now...

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