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Kevin's avatar

I'm an engineer, and in heavy industry most machines and infrastructure are generously overdesigned in order to handle unforeseen stresses. From a bean-counting point of view, this is "wasteful," but it's common practice. It's a shame that workforces can't be put together in the same way, with an intentional "overhire factor" on top of the theoretical bare minimum staff headcount. (We should treat employees at least as well as we treat our machines!)

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Mary C. Tillotson's avatar

We just recently had (I'm nervous using the past tense, it might not be over) a very stressful month mostly with kid related things. I'm really grateful for my husband's job flexibility, grandparents who made themselves available and are overall helpful people (not meddling, overbearing, judgmental, etc), and local friends who volunteered to help. I know a lot of moms don't have the advantages that I have - many of my friends have husbands who work at the office 8-5 pretty strictly, or who travel a lot, or have parents or in laws who aren't able or willing to help or are too nosy, or they are new to their area and haven't made local friends.

Many of my local friends are stay at home moms and, except for nap time, tend to have a lot of flexibility when they can bring their kids. One of them has my toddler and her own son at the local park right now. Another took my toddler and her toddler to the library a week ago so I could go to the hospital to see my son (who is, we think, fine now). I work/study part time and because of that I end up declining requests for help more often than I would like. Being part of the SAHM help economy is a wonderful thing (largely because it's informal and unregulated) and I wish I could contribute to it more.

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