Re: the second comment, "I've seen so many women step back from other friendships/hobbies/interests when they have children."
I don't have any (living) children but quality of life is something I think about as I plan to have them. I've seen studies that say modern working mothers women spend the same amount or more hours per week on childrearing than stay-at-home mothers from 50 years ago. * Which seems non-ideal. How can we create more times for ourselves without negatively impacting our children? I imagine that it comes with practice and deliberate effort. Or do we just have to work from before dawn to past dusk like many of our foremothers did?
How can we encourage our children to play and work independently with less supervision? Is it possible to spend less time and money on our children, with equally good outcomes? Is the solution simply not helicoptering? Is it possible to not helicopter in an era where in order for teens to get into good colleges they need ridiculously many extracurriculars and very high GPAs?
Re: the second comment, "I've seen so many women step back from other friendships/hobbies/interests when they have children."
I don't have any (living) children but quality of life is something I think about as I plan to have them. I've seen studies that say modern working mothers women spend the same amount or more hours per week on childrearing than stay-at-home mothers from 50 years ago. * Which seems non-ideal. How can we create more times for ourselves without negatively impacting our children? I imagine that it comes with practice and deliberate effort. Or do we just have to work from before dawn to past dusk like many of our foremothers did?
How can we encourage our children to play and work independently with less supervision? Is it possible to spend less time and money on our children, with equally good outcomes? Is the solution simply not helicoptering? Is it possible to not helicopter in an era where in order for teens to get into good colleges they need ridiculously many extracurriculars and very high GPAs?
* source: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/25/upshot/the-relentlessness-of-modern-parenting.html
I’m having trouble with the survey link!